Want to convert your first date to something more, but not sure if he’s into you? Clue yourself up on these body language giveaways, and you’ll know right away if your date is up for more than a glass of vino, before he even knows it himself!
Unless you’ve found yourself a keeper, or literally couldn’t give two shits about men (jel of both of you), you’ve probably been on a load of first dates.
From the good, to the bad, to the ‘call me in three minutes and say someone has died xx’, first dating is basically luck of the draw.
But sometimes, just sometimes, it goes oh so gloriously right. The conversation flows as well as the rosé and you’re already deciding whether to take his surname on its own or go double barrel.
Chances are, if you’re feeling chemistry with your date, he’s feeling it too. If you’re fancying some hold-holding/ a snog/ a taxi-home-make-out-sesh, then go for it. He probably wants the exact same thing.
But, if you need a little more reassurance that your date is properly in to you, reading his body language is a good place to find it.
As sex and relationship therapist, Maureen Williams, explains: “Flirting comes in many disguises, and body language is one of them.
“Most people know straight away if they’re sexually attracted to someone,” she says, and their body language reflects this instantly.
So, look out for these five body language traits, and know right away if your date is mentally DTF or AWOL.
If you find yourself gazing in to your date’s eyes, take a second to check out his pupils, as that part of the eye gets bigger when we’re looking at someone we find attractive, or have feelings for.
An article published in Science of People explains: “If we are aroused our pupils dilate in order to take in more of our pleasing surroundings. Often during courtship pupils stay dilated.”
Essentially, he likes what he sees, and his eyes are trying to take in as much of you as possible. Cute or what?
Feet pointed towards you
Now, no one’s suggesting you spend the whole date checking where his feet are pointed, but a subtle look down could provide the answer to the burning Q: ‘does he want me back?’
In her book How we do it: How the science of sex can make you a better lover, sex writer, Judi Dutton, says: “Feet typically point in the direction they want to go, so if someone’s feet are pointed toward you, that’s good. If they’re pointed away from you, that’s bad.
“If someone’s feet are pointed in toward each other, that ‘pigeon toes’ stance is actually a good sign, since it’s a subconscious attempt to shrink in size and appear harmless, approachable… which may very well mean someone likes you, a lot.”
If you can manage it without looking like you’re disinterested or searching for an ear ring, keep an eye on what’s going on under the table (no, not like that…) You’ll know pretty quickly if he’s head over heels for you or not.